In defense of the gold digger

I have had some interesting conversations with members of the opposite sex while here in Provo. During these conversations various aspects of dating have been discussed. On one occasion I was told that guys my age (26) like to date the 19-20 year olds. Not only that, but they don't want to date girls my age. The reason? Girls my age have expectations and have had experiences. It seems that guys want to date someone who will not expect that they have a plan for their life, or a plan for how they will provide for a family. They don't want to date someone who may have more education then them or who has had more life experiences than them. Another conversation informed me that all a girl needs to be is "hot and sweet." Kinda like wings?



I've been told I have "so much going for me." But come to find out, that might not be a good thing. All I really need to do is work on my abs, maybe dumb it down a bit, and apparently that will make me every guys dream. What the crap am I doing in grad school?



It has also come to my attention that guys don't like it when girls have expectations regarding their income or chosen career path. They think that girls who do are gold diggers. I find this interesting given the above conversations. Guys want a hot girl. I don't have a problem with that. I guess I have a problem with the hypocrisy. If at the top of a guy's list is looks, then how can he have a problem with a girl wanting a successful guy? Both are fairly temporal, no?



I have a problem with being labeled a gold digger just because I am trying to find a good provider for my future family. I'm not really sure why a guy would resent a girl who was trying to find that. In my estimation, a real man would take pride in providing for a family, or in developing the skills that will allow him to do that. I'm not trying to sound down on dating or on guys, and even though I have had some horrible dates, I'm not jaded toward the process. But I'm starting to accept that fact that the marriage thing might not happen for me.

An open letter to the jerks at Golds Gym

Dear 9th East Gold's Gym Members,

Are you completely and totally oblivious to the huge dumbbells you just left on the floor, or are waiting for your mom to come pick up after you? If I trip on a 55lb weight one more time I'm going to develop some super human strength, turn green Hulk style, and hurl the weight at your head. Just giving you fair notice.

Best,
Holly

Do you wanna hang out?

So I went on a date with a guy a while ago and didn't hear from him. I thought he was cool, so I was a little disappointed. Today out of the blue he calls. "Do you have plans tonight?" he asks.

"Actually I do," I say, "I'm going with a group to make tin foil dinners, plus I have homework and the gym at some point."

"Do you want to ditch?" he asks. No not really, I think.

"Well," I say, "They already paid for my food and are planning on me being there. And I can't really ditch homework. Why what do you have in mind?" I say this thinking that if he wants me to ditch my friends, who I really enjoy hanging out with and I'm not inclined to flake out on, that he must have a really cool date planned. Drum roll please.....

"Well I was just thinking maybe you could come over and we could hang out," he says.

Really. Hang out? You are 33 and "hang out" is the best you can come up with? You want me to ditch a fun activity to hang out??!! I know I sound like a brat, but everyone knows that when a guy asks you to hang out he really means come over and make out. He's taken me on one date, haven't spoken to him for days and I'm supposed to ditch the friends for what? Some mediocre make out sesh with a guy I couldn't possibly know I like? If you want the pleasure of my company, I need incentive, or least a little notice. Like call me the day before (at least) and say "Hey, do you want to ________" (insert fun activity or good restaurant name here).

I guess I'm just not the hang out kind of girl.

Tagged again!

I got tagged by my cousin Emily forever ago, so I better post something. I'm supposed to write six random facts about my self.



Random fact #1- I went to George Cloony's birthday party. George Cloony has a house in Green Valley, close to where I live. My good friend Heather and I went out dancing at a club in the Green Valley Ranch Casino. We were just sitting on a bench talking and a girl came up and asked us if we wanted to go into the VIP room. We said "sure!" We walk in and there was Jeremy Piven, Jeffery Tamboor, Seth Green, some other random celebrities and in the middle of it all was George Cloony making out with some random hot girl. He proceeded to make out with like 5 others while we were there. Pretty random! While living Vegas I have also danced next to Kevin Federline, Jessica Simpson, Kenny G. (seriously), the whole Sixers and Lakers basketball teams, and Paris Hilton, eaten dinner next to Andre Agassi and George Maloof, and shopped next to Beyonce and JayZ.



Random Fact #2- I have always wanted to own a bakery. I love, love, love to bake. But I hate getting up early, and you usually have to if you own a bakery. But my sister gave me the best idea to have a bakery that is geared toward late night studying college kids, open from 3pm-3am. I think it's perfect. If the economy is ever good again and I can get a loan I will do it.



Random Fact #3- I love beauty products. I can spend hours in Sephora. I especially love samples of beauty products. I love it when I buy a new product and try it for the first time. It's like Christmas morning to me. I know, it's weird.



Random Fact #4- I love Dr. Laura. If you haven't heard of her, look it up. Lots of people think she is harsh and mean for the sake of entertainment. I think her straight forward and pragmatic take on life is what is missing in the world.



Random Fact #5- I have a small fridge in my room where I keep my diet coke, and a basket where I keep my hundred calorie packs so no one will touch them.

Random Fact #6- I have some weird food issues. I hate mushy things...canned fruit and veggies, the fruit at the bottom of yogurt, bread that gets soggy on a sandwich , overcooked pasta. I also have a weird thing about temperature. I won't eat cold pizza or cold Chinese leftovers. Never have been sure how that is appetizing. I also thing that tuna fish should never be warm (like a tuna melt), and especially never mixed with thing like mac and cheese (that's for you Michael if you're reading). Fish like salmon should never be cold i.e. lox, or smoked salmon.

busy, busy

I have been a busy girl with no time to post. Between school and socializing I barely have time to shower! Last weekend a group of us went to see an 80's band in Salt Lake. They dress up like Revenge of the Nerds and cover tons of 80's songs. Jayson was the only guy...I think he felt like a pimp. Ha ha! The picture below is Me, Jayson, Erikka and Kallie.
This is the four of us girls: Me, Erikka, Kallie and Lindsay. They are so nice! The first ward activity we had they invited me to come hang out and play games at their apartment. The rest is history!

A couple weekends ago Heather (my old roommate who just moved out. Boo!) and her friend Jillian went to Park City to shop at the outlets. It was super cold and rainy, but we didn't care because we found amazing deals. Heather got a purse at the Coach outlet, I got a way cute dress at J. Crew and a denim pencil skirt at GAP and Jillian got some sweaters at Banana Republic. Then we stopped at Chili's for some much needed sustenance after a long day of shopping.

Jillian and Heather

Every Tuesday a group in our ward gets together to do something: a movie, games, etc. Last week it was Karaoke. The song list wasn't great. Usually I do Britney Spears, but that wasn't available. After scouring the list for a good song I saw Sweet Caroline by Neil Diamond. I thought, "I know that song. I've heard it a hundred times." Turns out I only know the chorus. And the key it was in was way too low for me. All in all it was a disaster. Regardless we had a good time!

Below: Me, Jared, Kallie and Jayson at Karaoke

This past week I decided to have a party to get excited about Fall. I made homemade soup and corn muffins, sugar cookies, caramel apples, and pumpkin trifle. Lots of people came and it was way fun! I think I found a new hobby: party hostess! I learned it all from my mom who has mad skills.

My roommate took pictures of me while I was baking.

This is my roommate Sarah and my friend Anesha. Anesha is in grad school with me at BYU. Both of these girls make me laugh everyday!

Me and Anesha

These are all people in my ward (left to right):Kristin, Jared, Lindsay, Kimber, Andrew. They were all watching the BYU game and were all depressed when BYU got spanked by TCU. Luckily, I don't care about sports!

This is the table that is kind of set up. Almost everything you see on the table was totally devoured. All the rolls, all the soup, tons of cookies, and even almost the whole veggie tray! College kids can put down some food.

More people from my ward: Ashley, Kyle, and Daniel

On Sunday, I posted video of me singing, but didn't write anything about it. I'm singing for a ward talent show. I had the words in my hand because I agreed to sing on Saturday and then had to perform Monday. On Monday, my power got turned because of a miscommunication with my roommate who moved out. So, I couldn't shower or do my hair or anything. Luckily Kallie, Lindsay and Erikka let me come over and use their bathroom. Thanks girls!

I've been tagged...not the graffiti kind

8 Favorite TV Shows...
1. So You Think You Can Dance
2. American Idol
3. The Soup
4. Grey’s Anatomy
5. Gilmore Girls (It’s only reruns, but I never get tired of it)
6. The Office
7. The Hills
8. Burn Notice

8 Favorite Restaurants...
1. Carrabba’s
2. PF Changs (or its cheaper counter part, Pei Wei)
3. Port of Subs (I miss you!)
4. Café Rio
5. Evos (I miss you!)
6. Mon Ami Gabi
7. Panera (I miss you!)
8. Cosi (I'm jealous that you have it there in MI)

8 things that happened yesterday (Tuesday)...
1. I went to class
2. I went to a study group
3. I watched the news
4. I posted a blog
5. I talked to my roommates
6. I went to karaoke (sang Sweet Caroline..it was a disaster. Turns out I only know the chorus.)
7. I did ALOT of homework
8. I went to the Crest

8 things to look forward to...
1. Finishing this awesome research project I'm doing
2. A good date
3. My Fall Fest I'm having next Friday
4. Going home for Thanksgiving and seeing my family
5. Christmas
6. Getting through my first semester of grad school
7. The election
8. Losing the last five pounds!

8 things I love about Fall...
1. Fall candles
2. Crisp air
3. Leaves changing
4. Scarves
5. Jackets
6. The smell in the air
7. Thanksgiving
8. Pumpkin desserts

8 things on my wishlist...
1. To see my family
2. Graduate from grad school
3. Visit my sister in MI
4. Pay off my student loans (one day)
5. Take an awesome trip- a cruise, New York City, something like that!
6. My landlord will let us throw away the ugly furniture that's here
7. That I will find something cool to do this summer
8. Overpriced Coach snow boots (I wish my sister could have them too!)


How To Play This Game of Tag:
1. Post these rules on your blog2. List: 3 joys, 3 fears, 3 goals, 3 current obsessions/collections, 3 random surprising facts about yourself3. Tag 3 people at the end of your post by leaving their names

3 Joys:
1. School/learning
2. My family
3. meeting new friends, keeping in touch with old friends

3 Fears:
1. The economy right now
2. Not graduating
3. A member of my family dying

3 Goals:
1. To get to the gym 5 times a week
2. Figure out how to live on less
3. manage my time better (hmmmm...)

3 Current Obsessions:
1. Blogging
2. Researching
3. Fox News

3 Random Facts:
1. I am a major night owl. I like to sleep from 2am to 10am.
2. I love samples of beauty products, or small kits with travel size products. I don't know why.
3. Before I go to sleep I check to make sure there are no spiders hiding in my bed.

Now Tag 3 people:1. Becky Evans 2. Celeste Bosch 3. Emily Draper